Expectation and Trust: Are They Related or Two Different Feelings in Life

Expectation! You would have seen a lot of people use this term around you. However, what does this word exactly mean? Do you have an idea? If you don’t, no need to be ashamed. No one does. They have an assumption that they do. It is my thought that all of us have an idea on the term. This term “expectation” has such a broader meaning to what our perception is.

Just for starters, I would love to know, if any of you have an idea on how Expectation is different from trust. Are they similar? Or is trust a type of expectation in a more affirmative sense?

If I ask a bunch of people to stand in front of me, they will have one common answer “Trust and Expectation are different”. “Expectation is ‘He/she might/should/would’ and Trust is ‘he/she will’”. It was yesterday only when I was hanging out with couple of my friends, when they said this very thing. However, I was adamant on one point that they are right when they say “Trust is he/she will”, but expectation is something way beyond ‘He/she might/should/would’. For me, expectation is not just hope, but everything related to ‘anticipation and belief’.

Have you ever noticed that whenever a trust is broken, the statement that comes out from the person’s mouth is “You broke my trust! I never expected this from you”. Hope some of you would have heard that. They are not wrong in saying that, as actually both the terms are related. It is our way to percept things that makes them different from one another. Yes, when it comes to the horizon covered by trust, it is limited. It has to be concrete or a belief has to be there for trust to occur. However, expectation can be from anything and it is not limited to any extent. So, trust is expectation, but all expectations are not trust.

Sounds confusing right! However, try to go into the logic behind both the terms, and you will find that they have a relation. Recently, I have found this habit in myself of considering logic behind everything (which I never did or I would have been a better engineer :P). Therefore, when I came across the base meaning of the term trust and expectation, I found that they were similar.

I know some (or all) of you do not agree to the fact, as my statements do not have support with solid examples. It is just an idea (or a logic) that I have for them. Again, when it comes to the common notion, it may be correct too. This is why I am not frowning when people are not agreeing to my point. However, I am looking for more ideas on this area, especially on the term ‘expectation’.

I think, today, I will have to get close to myself to know more about this term.

Hope first people will help me find out the relation between trust and expectation. Then, broaden my idea on the term expectation. Further down the line, I will upload more content on my idea about expectation and what I find out from different people.

Looking forward to comments whenever possible from you guys.

I have been Running after Happiness for Long, Why?

We always look out for ways to attain happiness. Whether compromise or think of any unfair way, we are ready to give everything to acquire that special feeling inside of us. But, is it actually special? Is it actually the thing, which you need to fight for? I don’t think so. I believe in the view of finding happiness, we lose our identity. We give an impression of a person that we never were. However, we forget that Happiness is nothing but the absence of sadness.

Yes, think of it, what would you be, if you are not sad????

I have not heard of any other emotions that can symbolize a similar meaning to happiness and sadness. So, if we are not sad, then we would definitely be happy. It is just that we miss out on those special moments, as we find it to be of no significance at all. However, it is the other way around. We believe that there are more moments of sadness, whereas the actual scenario is that we lose out on those phase, where we are not sad, to have fun.

This is where you need to get close to yourself. You need to tell yourself how special each and every moment is and how you should enjoy every moment when you are not sad. This will not only stop you from committing things that your soul will not allow you to, but also get the same emotion to be inside everyone, who comes in contact with you.

So, don’t run after happiness! It is always there for you!

Sometimes Being Selfish can Work for Others

Whatever decision you take in life, try to think of all the consequences and how it can affect you. There are places where you do not know what to do or what to come up to... Just make sure that out of all the confusion, you come up with an answer, where no one gets hurt in the future (especially you). I know it’s being selfish thinking of yourself... However, certain situations require you to be like that only. Who knows, eventually by taking a selfish decision, you might help everyone :).

And yes, when you feel you do not need anyone, just close your eyes, take a deep breath in and a deep breath out, make sure that you can hear yourself. Once you can achieve this state, you will find that you have the answer to all your questions and you will start feeling better.

And on top, from where I look at it, everyone hate lecture, but what they like is care. They need someone, who can listen to them and give advises. Yes, advises will not work, as they may not be practical. However, they like the fact that person find time for them to come up with the stupid lecture. Just to show the person that the lecture eventually worked, they themselves come up with a solution and solve their own problem.

Listen to Your Inner Self; Do Not Wait to Make the Move

People always wait for the right moment to do certain things. Be it signing a project, getting themselves checked, organizing a party or proposing a GIRL you LOVED for ages, you want all things to be done at the time you are comfortable with. It is not our superstitious nature that we think this way. It is the fact that we are scared of the outcomes involved in all these cases, especially when it comes to proposing a girl J.

Now, what can be done in such cases! There is no doubt that if we move about with such an attitude, we are going to lose out on opportunities where things would have actually worked the way we wanted them to.

What can be done over here? Can we change the way we think? Or keep on losing things, which we desire the most, for our foolish thoughts. Remember, we get only one chance for everything. And if we lose out on it, what we can do is only repent.

This is where your inner self comes quite handy. No matter how stupid it sounds, but the first thing that comes out from our inside is actually what can happen. The instincts can actually do the permutation and combination involved better than what we could have done, if we do the same by giving it a thought.

This is where you need to get close to yourself and ask it what it needs and how to get it. Once you get the answer do not take time to implement it. Nothing can be far worse than not having the person (or the project, the health or the joy) in the end, as we were WAITING to make the move.

Your Inner Self has the answer to all your questions. Let it speak, as it will help you be in a position from where you will only march ahead and get success all your life.

Should I Move Ahead in My Relationship: Ask Yourself!

It is difficult for a person to know when is the right time to move ahead in their relationship. Be at a position, where you can think ahead and see a future where both you and your friend see each other as someone, who holds a special position.

Do we get any signals that signify their existence? Anything like pigs flying in the air, birds chirping sweet, weather changing to something pleasant and everything seeming better than ever before. I believe things remain the same always. The only thing that changes is you yourself. Now, how can I say that? Pretty Simple! Read ahead and you will have the answer.

To know if it is the right time to move ahead or not, you should get close to yourself first. You know there are a number of people, who will have their opinion in this regard. All of them will put your life with or without that friend, making you more confused. However, one place, which will never let you down and give you a clear advise, is your heart, your own heart! You know why, as our heart is the only one, who knows what we exactly want, as it is the very thing that manages all the pain and gain, which you get in a relationship.

If your heart plays such an important role in your relationship, then why not let it choose your partner. Your friends will never make a decision to harm you, as they know your mental state. However, I doubt if they have an access to your heart. Irrespective of their closeness to you, they cannot identify what your heart needs. You may seem someone very strong, but your heart may be weak and might not take the burden of a wrong decision.

What it takes to get close to yourself is sit in a darkened room, hold your hands together and think of the good times spent with your friend, who you recently have been finding very close to your heart. Thing of all the good times you had. In case if he will be the right one, you are going to get a signal that will determine what his position should be in your life. It might not seem perfect all the time. However, in the longer run, who knows it may turn out to be the right decision.

So, go ahead and give yourself an opportunity to make this important decision of your life!

Take a deep Breathe In & then Breathe Out: Now, What’s that?

You know barely a day goes in my life these days when I don’t do this: ‘Take a deep breathe in and then breathe out’. Even, I ask my friends, each one of them, to go through the same routine whenever they feel that the world’s against them and nothing can work.

Initially, each one of them ask the same question, without missing, that dude ‘Now, What’s That?’ ‘Is it another one of your stupid things’? Some even have gone on to said that ‘Abhinav, are you into Yoga, meditation or other stuffs’?

Likewise, I always have the same thing to say to everyone, ‘This is my way to get close to myself’.

Just imagine, what actually happens when you take a deep breathe in & then breathe out, apart from your lungs getting heavy for a short period! The world, for that moment, will be your soul. You’ll feel nothing but your inside, your inner self. And when you’re down, this is the person you need to take full care of.

Once you get in touch with the inner self by breathing in, within that small time you can accumulate all your tension and send it out of your body to get your inner self relaxed. Tough to believe, but it works! Might not be successful every time, still you can give it a shot in the toughest of times.

It’s no meditation and will take only 5-10 seconds for the process. The best part about this is that you can try it everywhere. Whenever you need to speak to yourself, just take a deep breathe in & then breathe out and Wola, its done! Irrespective of the phase that you are going through, such an approach will give the strength to get relaxed. And its natural, so no side-effects…

Just give it a shot! My friends have tried it and found it to be effective at many stages when they were alone and needed to get close to their inner self. I am sure it will work for you too.

P.S. Don’t try this in a place, where bad odor prevails. Trying this in those places may be harmful for your nostrils and can even give you a sudden shock, which can have an impact for hours.. How I know that? I was a victim once. And it really hurts. he he he. your nostrils will never forgive you then. Trust me on that!

Why get close to yourself?

Getting close to yourself is the most difficult task to achieve irrespective of how strong you are! We can look into others and their problems. However, seeing within ourselves seems herculean. However, it is not the case.

You barely give yourself the time that you do to others around you. Remember, the person inside of you is someone, who is always there with you, whether it’s the happiest moment in your life or the saddest. Even this is the only person, who gives you the needed strength to help other prosper in life.

However, your inner self also gets depressed. The reason being that it’s unhappy with the impact of your surrounding on you! All this sounds stupid, but if you look at it with a broad point of view, everything will be clear.

Your inner self is the strength that allows you to acquire success for you and people close to you. If it is down, you can feel the impact on your confidence. Concentration on your work becomes zilch. Everything will seem to stop for you and the result will be failure in life.

This is why you should try to get close to yourself. If not always, give it sometime. Just choose a location and try to talk with yourself. This will always keep you in good mood and serve you with confidence needed to succeed in life.

And don’t forget to take a deep breathe in and out. This is the easiest form of getting closer to yourself. This is how I manage to stay in touch with myself always. Hope, it works for you too!