Too Much of Importance Given to that SOMEONE can Ruin Everything

Ever since my teens, I have heard and seen mean give importance to SOMEONE specific in his or her life. And by importance, I mean giving everything to that special SOMEONE, even your Self-Respect.

These people have had their reasons to do so, as they felt that they were completed by that SOMEONE. Giving these SOMEONE something, which he or she deserved, is never considered too much. However, I always felt that there should have been a barrier. A barrier, beyond which you should not go, has only a world of unhappiness, if you are on its wrong side.

Once that barrier is crossed, you giving them the importance become a common thing for your SOMEONE. Whatever you do, it seems that things were meant to be. Your SOMEONE starts Taking You for Granted. Yes, they do. The funny thing is that they would say that they are being victimized and are being ‘Taken for Granted’. However, it is never the case.

The worst part over here is that you know what is happening around you, but you start ignoring it. And it is totally understandable on your part, as SOMEONE’s already in a position, where you feel that even getting the world will not be enough. However, at that point, you don’t know that if the “Taken for Granted” situation gets serious, things might not remain the same for you.

Remember, not all of us are lucky to have that SOMEONE, who will stay the same all their life. And if you are amongst those unlucky people, there is a time, when you don’t even realize, but that special SOMEONE feels that he or she is SPECIAL for you and starts playing with your Self-Respect.

Self-Respect, it’s a term, which seems insignificant to people having that special SOMEONE in life, till the harsh reality tells them that it is the only thing, which proves their existence in this world.

Your SOMEONE is toying with your Self-Respect, when you come across these situations:

• Their Call is Important and Yours Not
• Your Each and Every Move Made/Word Said is Irritating
• Your Affection becomes a Showoff
• You are the One who is Listening in the Fight all the time and if You Speak, it’s all crap

There are numerous situations other than these, which show that your Self-Respect is a teeny-weeny element for them and all of them are quite visible, but we keep ignoring that. By doing this, you are preparing yourself for the following scenario:

• You hope your phone to ring and it is the SOMEONE on the call, but it does not, till he or she wants to
• You keep checking SMSs, BBMs, WHATSAPP or FACEBOOK to see if SOMEONE is replying to your messages, but he or she will never do, till he or she wants to
• You hope that SOMEONE will be the first one to call back, if there is a fight, but it never happens. You will have to initiate the move, take the blame for the fight and still, be at the receiving end of their attitude

Things get worse than this and before you know it, your time with that SOMEONE is over for good. And you neither have your SELF-RESPECT nor that SOMEONE by your side. You are heartbroken and you start living a miserable life. 

The point, which I want to make with this content, is that give importance, where necessary, to the SOMEONE. Yes, they deserve your affection, but do not go overboard. Do not let such situations (mentioned above) even have a scope of being present in your life. And most of all, never let anyone play with your SELF-RESPECT. It doesn’t matter, who you are dealing with, but your Self-Respect is worth a zillion and it cannot be toyed or hurt by anyone. When no one will be there, your self-respect will help you to survive and have a significant position in this world.